I am currently in the midst of moving, which is very exciting…don’t get me wrong about that, but going from lease to lease each summer is always stressful. It’s hard not to feel like you’re stuck in the in-between stage of your life throughout college. Of course I am constantly growing, but there is always this tiny voice in my head that seems to be telling me that I should be doing more, or better. As a college student in my twenties, it’s hard not to get discouraged or worried when thinking about what appears to be the whole grand scheme of things. Especially with the significance of social media in our society today, it’s easy to compare your progress to someone else when in reality you’re only falling a victim to some strangers perception of their perfect life on a little screen. Through my own years of self-discovery and figuring sh*t out, I’ve come to realize the truth behind the fact that everyone you see online is a real person…who deals with real issues, give or take. Everyone is dealing with their own demons, and everyone handles them in their own way. Since I got back to San Diego I’ve been in the process of finding a new place and figuring out my next big step. It’s really brought me back to think about why I started this blog and what I want to share with you guys. It might be easier to share the good stuff, but I want to be real with my readers and show you that everybody has those days. Whenever I wake up feeling like the universe is far from being a friend of mine, I have a few special things I like to do. All of these things have to do with self-care, and taking that step back to really ground myself. Sometimes self care presents itself as this glamorous thing, like bubble baths or face masks & sometimes self-care just looks like going to your favorite coffee shop and reading a good book, or making a mental list of all the things that make you feel good. I am grateful for both.
This is my first, and very most important tip because I believe that everyone should do at least one thing that makes their heart happy, each and every day. Now this might be different for absolutely everyone, whether it’s a hobby or simply just watching your favorite TV show at night…I am a firm believer in “Me Time.” Through the chaos of life, it’s easy to get caught up in making everyone else happy and I’ve learned the hard way that it’s SO vital to take time for yourself. Personally, I love to write. I’ve found that it’s my best stress-relief and always makes me feel productive.
On the same topic of making time for yourself…let’s talk about working out. I have a love/hate relationship with the gym. However, I am very aware that it has so many benefits for physical AND mental health. I’ve been doing yoga on & off for years and I love it. The best thing about it is that you can either sign up for classes at a studio or you can do it in the comfort of your own home. No matter how I’m feeling before a yoga class, I always leave in a significantly better mood.
I swear there’s a song out there that can relate to any situation or feeling you may have. Good music can seriously change the world. Whenever I am having an off-day, I always force myself to clean. I know this might sound crazy to some people, but I find it very therapeutic. I love blaring my favorite feel-good songs while I try to be productive as possible. You can listen to my feel-good playlist here.
Similar to music, there’s an endless amount of books and authors you can relate to. When you’re really busy it might seem impossible to sit down and read a book but I promise you it’s the best stress relief. Not to mention, there’s so many authors out there that have moving life-stories that will inspire you and get you out of your funk. Here are some of my favorites:
Girl Boss by Sophia Amoruso — if you’re interested in fashion or being an entrepreneur, her story is amazing!
Brain on Fire by Susannah Cahalan— I read this whole book on the airplane back to SD…needless to say it’s amazing. It’s a true story about a crazy medical mystery. The movie actually just came out on Netflix too & it’s really good!
You are a Badass by Jen Sincero— I’m not usually one for self-help books but I will say sometimes they are necessary. I enjoyed this one because not only is it an easy read, but she has a great sense of humor!I must admit…I am obsessed with Pinterest! I wouldn’t usually recommend going on social media to de-stress but it’s my absolute favorite for INSPO. I swear I could spend hours just scrolling through the app…especially in the process of moving, it’s been so helpful for my apartment inspiration. Check out my Pinterest:
↓ Outfit Deets ↓
TLROOM lounge pants — their stuff is so soft!
Mini Gingham Backpack—from Brandy Melville, but I linked a similar one!
Thanks for reading my post, and I hope you find these tips & tricks helpful like I do! xx